Live like Lucy; 1996 – 2012

Lucy love licks during a hike in Hariman Park

Almost ten years ago my life changed for the better. In September 2002 I started dating my husband and his dog, Lucy. It was clear from the beginning that Ted and Lucy came as a package deal. Lucy was about 6 years old at the time and she was full of life. I had heard of other female dogs getting possessive of their male owners and not taking kindly to a new girlfriend. Lucky for me, that was not the case. Ted, Lucy and myself quickly became a great team. We went mountain biking together, took long walks in the city, hiked up many mountains and of course, we had our fair share of tailgating parties. Those of you that were blessed to know Lucy knew that she was a party dog. She loved being around people and she really loved a good BBQ.

In the first few months of being together Lucy shifted from following Ted around to following me around. It was a bit humorous and I definitely felt honored. Ted figured that she could tell I was not quite as street smart, so I would need a little more attention. But I knew it was sisterly love. Strong females can connect with other females. They don’t feel threatened or insecure. For sure, Lucy was secure in her beautiful dogness. We became running partners and great friends.

There is a special place in hell for woman that don’t help other women.

– Madeleine Albright

In the 9-plus years that I spent with Lucy, I learned a lot about how I wanted to live my life. Not only as a person, but as a female. And since her passing this past July, I think it would be a great honor to pass on some Lucy knowledge.

Live Like Lucy:

1. Tolerant and Loving

Lucy was a very tolerant and loving individual. She remained calm while our baby crawled on top of her and grabbed at her hair. Lucy knew that the baby meant no harm and she loved seeing her grow and develop. She knew to be calm when we were visiting grandparents and she could make anyone smile with her loving eyes. I guess one of the great things about dogs in general is that they don’t judge you, they love you unconditionally.

 Intense love does not measure, it just gives.

– Mother Teresa

2. Listen to your gut

Granted, Lucy was a dog and therefore her senses were more keen than us poor humans. But I loved seeing her follow her gut and felt inspired by it each time. Lucy could tell if a person or dog was no good. She knew it immediately and would do her best to avoid the person/dog. She did not waste time trying to be nice to a person or dog that did not align with her pure kindness.

Once we were at a BBQ with our baby who was just walking. Another dog entered the scene and Lucy sensed that there might be a problem. She strategically placed herself between our baby and the other dog. Her body language told me that she was alert and not happy with the situation. We picked up our baby and put her in a safe spot to ease Lucy’s mind (and ours).

It’s your right to listen to your gut. It ain’t nobody’s right to say no after you earn the right to be what you want to be and do what you wanna do.

– Rocky Balboa

 

3. Take no B.S.

Right behind tolerance and following her gut, but definitely just as important was her ability to know when to stand up for herself. This might be the trait that I admired most in Lucy. There were a few occasions when Lucy had to flex her muscles and let another dog know that she was not to be messed with. Each time Lucy was able to get her point across with loud barking and body language. I think I witnessed this about 3 or 4 times in our relationship. It made me think back to the times in my life when I let another person take advantage of me or manipulate me. I was not able to flex my muscles and tell the person that I would not take this abuse. So Lucy inspired me to stick up for myself more and not let the bad guys get me down. I have to say that since she entered my life, I have been living on my terms.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands;
you need to be able to throw something back.

– Maya Angelou

4. Enjoy each day

Lucy indeed lived for the moment. She reveled in every aspect of life; running, sleeping, eating and just being together with loved ones. She never turned down a new experience. Her will to live and love was strong and I will always remember her as the spunky beautiful dog that would wake me up in the morning with licks to my face.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Lucy in Pine Hill

Lucy last fall on a Pine Hill hike.

Each day with Lucy was a blessing and it seems proper to honor her by not taking life for granted. This fall we plan to have a memorial mountain bike ride in honor of Lucy. Friends and family are welcome to join us, just let me know if you are interested. I also plan to make a donation in honor of Lucy to two non profits that Lucy would love: 1. Girls Leap and 2. Pine Hill Park.

I had the opportunity to meet the founder of Girls Leap and some of the girls that went through the program when I was busy with my design business in Boston. What draws me to this program is that they understand that learning physical self defense is just a small part of what girls need. They focus on building self esteem, which alone makes one less vulnerable. This is a program worth funding and it seems appropriate to do so in honor of our amazing dog.

Pine Hill Park was one of Lucy’s favorite places. She ran with us while we mountain biked the trails and she walked them with me in her later years. All of the trails are maintained by volunteers and they need monetary support for tools and materials.

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 A Note from Mrs D

This blog is meant to help my Shaklee customers get to know me better. My lifestyle choices include consuming organic and local foods supplemented withShaklee vitamins. My family is very active with skiing, snow boarding, bicycle riding and yoga. (Okay, I used to practice yoga regularly and now I fantasize about working it back into my schedule. It will happen.) We visit our chiropractor regularly and on occasion we see an acupuncturist and massage therapist. I use all of the Shaklee Get Clean products and would love to introduce you to them as well.

Please feel free to contact me at MrsD@MrsDandCo.com to learn more about Shaklee’s healthy line of products.

One Comment

  1. Beautifully written! We should all live by Lucy’s examples. I’m sadden by this event and honored to have known Lucy. I have SO many memories I wouldn’t know where to begin.

    I would like to share one with you…. Mushy, my pug, LOVED Lucy as if they were sisters and whatever Lucy did, she did. One Sunday afternoon after a passing shower, Mushy was following Lucy around the yard (in Red Bank). And like all labradors instinctually camouflage their scent by rolling in other scents/stuff, Lucy found a mud puddle between our yard and the neighbors and proceeded to cover herself in dirt, mud and whatever else was lurking. AND her sister Mushy followed suit because pug-labradors do the same. Wagging her tail in excitement, Mushy now a black pug, was happy to be a part of Lucy’s world. I on the other hand wasn’t sharing in the excitement. My thoughts were to get this dirty dog into a shower- Ted’s shower. I figured since it was Ted’s dog Lucy who coaxed my dog into the mud puddle it was justified that I use Ted’s shower to rinse her off.